A Message From Venus: What Women Really Want This Valentine's Day

Alright, lads—Valentine’s Day is looming, and you know what that means: pressure. The pressure to get it right. The pressure to be romantic without embarrassing yourselves. But what does she really want? Spoiler alert: it’s not another overpriced bottle of wine or a box of chocolates. Let’s break it down.

It’s About Thought, Not the Price Tag

No, she doesn’t want another gift that screams, “I panicked and bought the first thing I saw.” What women really appreciate is thoughtfulness. A gift that shows you’ve paid attention to what she likes or needs goes much further than something you grabbed on the way home. A book she’s been eyeing up? Gold.

Words of Affirmation

Women need more than the generic ‘I love you, babe’ that you toss out like you’re throwing a coin into a wishing well. She doesn’t need a poem, but she does want to hear what you love about her that goes beyond, “You’re really good at doing the laundry.” Tell her what makes her special—whether it’s how she makes you laugh, her strength, or how she brightens your day.

Time Together (And No, Not Just Netflix)

We get it—you’re busy. Work, kids, and that Netflix series you’re finally getting into. But what she really wants is time—time to talk, time to connect. No phones, no distractions, just the two of you. A date night? Perfect. But if that’s not happening, carve out an evening to be present without the screen getting in the way.

A Little Romance Goes a Long Way

You don’t need to rent a hot air balloon or hire a string quartet. A little romance goes a long way—skip the grand gestures and keep it simple. Think surprise kiss, a sweet note, or an “I love you” that’s not part of the bedtime routine. It's the little things that count, and trust us, she’ll remember them longer than you remember where you left your keys.

“She doesn’t need a poem, just tell her what makes her special—beyond 'You’re really good at doing the laundry.'”

Help Around the House

You live there too, so pitch in! Washing the dishes, picking up your socks, or taking the kids for a bit—it’s more romantic than you think. And it doesn’t count if you tell her about it. Just do it, and it’ll make her wonder if you’ve secretly been crowned Husband of the Year.

So, there you have it—no need for a grand gesture or a flash mob (unless you're secretly planning one, in which case, you do you). What she really wants this Valentine’s Day is simple: your attention, your appreciation, and a bit of effort. The biggest secret of all? These aren’t just for Valentine’s Day. Make her feel special all year round, and you’ll be winning at this relationship game every day.

DADDING IN ACTION

Think about something she’s mentioned recently and turn it into a thoughtful surprise. The perfect gift is one that shows you’ve been listening.