May 203 min read

Let’s Talk: Tackling Postpartum Depression

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Postpartum depression (PPD) is a journey no one plans to take, and it’s hitting dads hard. Research shows up to 10% of new fathers struggle with PPD, a silent struggle that's more common than you might think.

The Fight Against PPD

Depression isn’t just a bad day or the disappointment of burnt toast. PPD in dads is a serious business, often going unnoticed. It can knock the wind out of your sails when you’re supposed to be on cloud nine with your little one. As Dr. Will Courtenay, a psychotherapist specialising in men’s health, puts it, "Untreated anxiety postpartum often leads to depression."

Recognising the Signs

If you’re feeling more than just tired from the midnight feeds or if your favourite team’s win doesn’t lift you up, it's time to take a deeper look. Keep an eye out for…

Persistent low mood or irritability
Withdrawal from family and social life
Difficulty bonding with the baby
Changes in eating and sleeping patterns
Lack of interest in activities once enjoyed
Feelings of hopelessness or being overwhelmed

If any of this sounds like you, here’s what to do next…

1. Open Up

You're not alone. Chat with someone close to you about how you're feeling. This could be your partner, a family member, or a friend. Letting it out can be a relief and the first step to seeking support.

2. Seek Professional Support

After sharing your feelings, it's essential to seek professional help. A GP or mental health specialist can discuss your options, which may include counselling, therapy, or medication. Asking for help is a courageous step towards getting better and it shows your strength as a man to take action.

"The construct of masculinity can be a double-edged sword, providing strength but also limiting emotional expression. Societal expectations often expect men to be independent problem-solvers, but the real strength is found in reaching out for support."

- Dr. Will Courtenay, Psychotherapist

3. Build a Support Network

Connect with other dads who've been in the trenches. Local support groups or online forums offer reassurance and valuable advice. Remember, you're not alone in this fight.

4. Prioritise Self-Care

Don’t neglect your mental health basics – diet, exercise, and sleep. With a new baby in the house, it's easy to overlook self-care, but it's crucial for your well-being.

Talking about mental health isn’t unmanly; it’s smart and it’s brave. It’s like checking the oil in your car – maintenance prevents the complete breakdown. By opening up, you’re not only helping yourself but also setting a sterling example for your kids.